Teaching and empowering America’s kids and dogs to be insecure and self entitled. Society is more amd more often unknowingly rewarding failure in our youth and aggressive, anxiety, fear or hyper activity in our beloved dogs.
Kids and Dogs need love and compassion. Kids and Dog’s need reward. Heck, kids and Dog’s need fun play time too.
People need to understand that the value of these things are not the treat rewards, play, fetch, X-Box, iPhone infinitives or in some cases the loving, sweet, good natured cuddle after a scary/intense event.
Kids VALUE a parent, teacher or other authority figure that give rules, enforce boundaries, offers assertive direction and some times punishment ( weird I know) at the same time you can offer the care,compassion and rewards. Balance is key. People are so cemented in a welfare mantality of just don’t kill anyone and you can get a cookie. Just go to school and you will get a “PASS” for it. 50% of their grade is given for “effort”. Kids sports, there is no winner, everyone gets to be quarterback, forward or point guard or captain; no one loses and the kids won’t get their feelings hurt and feel bad. Really? Really America? All this self entitlement we condition our kids to and society wonders why drugs, theater/school shootings and “depression” is increasing every day in kids from preschool to high-school. The flow of society frightens me.
Today’s society, kids and adults alike, should have access to and treated with respect, kindness and be allowed comfort and love. The thing that frustrates me is when did that mutate into this spoiled, save me from the air, free lunch way of life? Earn your position of Captain, don’t just “pass” the class, work to get the A. Work to be the best even if you never will be. Don’t get mad if you are wrong, learn from it and value the opportunity to developing accountability. Can’t pay your rent? Get another job or sell your stuff! If your sad about life, be productive do something to empower yourself! If you didn’t know, I’ll tell you, unless actual chemical imbalance is there, that magic happy pill isn’t really magical. And it is expensive and will screw your “world” up once you miss a refill and have to wait 3-5 days.
Even in dogs this is true!
Why is the evolution of general dog training theory in that same cast? Seemingly contining in a direction that puts heavy emphasis on rewards and excitement? Rather then respect and valuing authority.
Reward a job well done, not just for going through the motions. If your dog is attacking something or someone; treats, distractions, clickers or hugs aren’t going to stop him, they may make him more aggressive! Rewarding the state of mind when he is calm and social is awesome. Very productive and beneficial. When’s the last time you got a raise for throwing your computer at the FedEx guy for saying hello in passing? When did you get a raise or bonus for just showing up to work, like your supposed to?
Why does it make sense to give treats to your dog when he growls or snarles at another dog? Is it because he didn’t lunge or bite?
“Gooooood boooooy…. You didn’t rip apart that Yorki, here’s a cookie.”
So, no dog died, so he gets a cookie… So, if I go through tomorrow and not shank anyone, do I get money, free car or steak? Maybe a high five? No? What do you mean I’m not supposed to shank people? Maybe if I pay my lunch tab, I will get a free car wash… New computer? Nothing? Wtf then. Why does society give extra credit for “showing up” to Math class and dogs treats for not killing snow ball across the street? Why do parents that raise their voice and take away toys or play time looked at as evil and child abusive? Or someone firmly, physically touching a dog Lunging to correct then or using a leash correction on a growling dog seen as ignorant and mean?
“you don’t have to hurt the dog for him to listen to you”
RIP Snowball…
Think about it. I’m hard on my kids when they act out, don’t listen or have unreasonable responses to life’s situations. They don’t like it at the time. I’m never demeaning or insulting. I have expectations. Both my girls, believe it or not, still love me and are amazing kids! 2 years above their age level in many categories. They are sweet, confident, compassionate, well spoken, caring and empathetic.
Discipline does not mean violently smacking your kid in the face or kicking your dog through the goal post.
Violence is an epidemic in all facets of social America. Why is that? Ask your friend what to do if your dog Gros or kid yells at another kid… See what they say.
Something to think about. Please, share your thoughts. This has been on my mind for a while now. I’m curious about other people’s thoughts about this.
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